Kids and Santa Claus: ‘Tis the Season to Tell Them the Truth?
There’s something magical about this time of year for kids and adults alike. For young children, though, Christmas brings about something extra special – Santa Claus.
According to a widespread survey, most American children stop believing in Santa Claus around age 8. But, that doesn’t mean there’s an “ideal” age to tell your kids the truth about the man in red. You might be struggling with how to tell them, or even if it’s the right time.
You’re certainly not alone. Parents all over the country face these same problems every year.
So, is this finally the season to come clean about Santa?
When to Tell Your Children
The first thing to understand is when it’s an age-appropriate time to tell your kids about Santa Claus. Keep in mind that most children learn about St. Nick from a very young age. Santa becomes a fixture in their brains. Each might have their own individual view of Santa, but he’s an integral part of their childhood.
Many parents decide to wait until their kids start asking questions. As long as they’re content to believe in the magic and mystery of Santa, that’s not a bad thing. But, if they’ve crossed an age where that isn’t “cool” or peer-appropriate anymore, consider it the right time to tell them the truth.
How do you know when that age is? Many children will start to ask questions about Santa and whether he’s real. Maybe they overheard someone at school or they’ve noticed your handwriting on their Christmas presents.
If your child is young and likely to keep believing, it’s okay to keep that magic going for another year or two. But, generally, if your child is around the eight-year mark, it could be time to tell the truth.
How to Approach the Conversation
Whether your child asks about Santa or now or later, it’s still important to approach the conversation gently. Just because they might not believe anymore doesn’t mean Santa Claus hasn’t been an important part of their life and memories.
One of the best ways to “share the news” is by weaving in your own story. Tell your kids about when you discovered the truth about Santa, and how it made you feel. If you have older kids in the house, include them in the conversation. They might have better insight and can comfort your younger kids, since knowing the truth is more recent for them.
Be prepared to answer questions. Your child might wonder how long their other siblings have known. Or they might ask how the presents appeared under the tree each year. No question should be “off-limits”. So, prepare yourself ahead of time to ease their concerns and confusion.
Santa or No Santa, Keep the Magic Alive
Even when your kids know the truth about Santa, it’s important to keep the Christmas magic alive as much as possible.
Continue with your normal Christmas traditions. You might even continue to write Santa’s name on a few gift tags. Even when your kids know where the gifts are coming from, it’s important to remember that they’re still just kids. It’s okay to let them feel a little bit of that mystery and excitement!
Most of all, try to do things all season that will show them that Christmas is still a special time of year. Go look at light displays, bake cookies together, watch holiday movies while drinking hot chocolate.
There really is something special about this time of year, and the idea of Santa Claus, if not the reality, is part of that. When your child is ready, tell them the truth. If you do it openly and compassionately, they’ll be able to accept the truth, enjoy the season, and pass down your wonderful traditions. Not to mention their personal memories of Santa and the joy they bring.
If you find you’re still nervous about breaking the news or about any other parenting issue please reach out for help, you’re not alone! I’m available for support and guidance. Please read more about parent counseling and contact me soon for a consultation.